Imagine going out for dinner with friends, and no one pulls out their phone; or trying to remember that name of Robert Downey Jr.’s most recent film without checking Google (Captain America: Civil War); or sitting on a bus and not having your neighbor talking loudly to his mother. Don’t get me wrong — I’m all for using cellphones, google-ing, and calling your mother. But research shows that there is a significant cost of both multi-tasking and being distracted by the phone — cost to brain development, creativity, and happiness.
“Wait, what?” you say. “My brain? My creativity? My happiness? But I can’t get my job done unless I multitask!” It’s time to re-think this.
Career advice is easy to get — maybe too easy because there is too much information and too many people who think they know what’s best for you. So, how do you wade through it all? My straight-forward advice is to pace yourself and complete a thorough process such as these five steps:
- Understand yourself
- Be practical (and budget minded)
- Explore your options
- Be inspired
- Be brave and take a leap
In May of 2016 James Ryan, Dean of the Harvard Graduate School of Education, gave a commencement speech
about asking good questions. While his words were directed at future teachers and leaders in education, they are invaluable to a much broader audience.
His speech includes a reference to Raymond Carver’s poem “Late Fragment.” In just thirty words, Carver beautifully articulates the simple desires that so many of us want at the end of our lives: “to call myself beloved” and “to feel myself beloved on the earth.”
And it is.
Want to get a meeting with someone who you don’t personally know ? Skip the Dear Sir/Madam email– while it might work, it’s unlikely to because the world is too busy. Then what? It’s simpler than you think: get an introduction or make you own, write a compelling and flawless email, and follow up.
There are so many reasons why you might want to meet a stranger. If you’re in sales, you hopefully already know how to do outbound cold calls. If you don’t know, there a is a lot of readily available advice on how to sell something.
But what if what you’re selling is YOU? How do you convince someone to share their valuable time?