How do you see the world? Cup half-full, half-empty, or a bit of both? And what if someone does something really annoying or thoughtless — are you immediately angry? While most of us cannot stop our immediate reaction of being angry, frustrated or resentful, it is very likely that we can “get over it.” In … More Choose Your Lens: Choose How You See the World
I am not a fan of new year’s resolutions. I didn’t make any this year, or for many years. But I’m a big believer in mindful changes — actively reflecting and thoughtfully committing to new habits. So, on new year’s day I sat down and made a list. I used a 3 x 5 index … More My New Year’s Plan
When we feel hurt by someone, we don’t always recognize the pain — it might feel like anger instead. But we are likely truly hurt and we are truly suffering. Perhaps you think a friend is neglecting you. Or was your mother, brother or aunt not generous enough in their gift? Do you feel angry … More ‘Tis the Season … of Giving and Connecting
Ever notice that voice inside? The one that makes you feel afraid, or guilty or anxious? That one that tells you not to bother, or you’re never going to make it, or you’re not really any good. That’s your Inner Critic. And the problem is, your Inner Critic knows all about you — it knows all … More Making Friends with Your Inner Critic
The holidays can be a stressful time — whether you’re reveling in them or dreading them. Thanksgiving is over but now comes the busy social schedule, the end-of-year work deadlines, and the stress of trying to get everything ready for the holidays. On top of regular work and family responsibilities, you might be sending holiday … More Chew Your Food — Not Your Worries
When I was an undergrad student I swam laps almost every day. I’m far from being a gifted swimmer but I love being in the water. What I don’t love is getting into the water — getting started was (and is) always the hardest for me. I had all the hacks – packing my swim … More Micro-Habits — Make Big Changes With One Tiny Step at a Time
Many years ago, I had the pleasure to sit down with John W. Gardner who is oft credited with the expression of “repotting” oneself as an approach to life-long learning and personal growth. He was someone who often repotted himself, even taking a new job in his late 70s. He lived almost 90 years, from … More Making Changes — Is it Time for Repotting You?