Urgent doesn’t equal important. We often conflate the two. Answering emails or responding to slack messages feels urgent and important — but they are likely neither. They feel urgent and we make them important…What truly important work might we be doing instead? … More Stop Watching Breaking News–It’s Urgent but Not Important
Recruiters have many practices including asking the applicant early in the process what their salary expectations are; the applicant doesn’t want to go too high for fear of being eliminated so she goes low. But if this is you, if you pick a low number then you are locked in at that level… what to do? … More Salaries: Take What They Offer or Ask For What You Want?
There are protests in the streets over police brutality, the COVID-19 pandemic seems to be dividing not uniting the country, and unemployment rates are still climbing. What to do? … More Searching for Silver Linings
As I wrestle over decisions, I’ve tried to become a quasi-expert on many topics. And if not an expert, at least I have tried to be very well informed about many things…expert or not, there are some decisions that are perfect for delegating. … More Simplify Decision Making: A Case for Strategic Delegation
The Enneagram uses numbers as a way to sort personalities; I thought I was a two, and then I realized I am a nine. And then, I didn’t know what to do with that knowledge. I’m an Enneagram 9—now what? … More I’m an Enneagram 9 — Now What?
Was yesterday a good day or a bad day? Why? If you know why then you’re ahead of the game. That knowledge can help you have more good days than bad. Here’s my simple plan: every day ask yourself: What would need to happen to make today a good day? It might take some practice … More What Would Make Today a Good Day?
My youngest child just started college & my gift was 18 pieces of advice — some of which are good for anyone. … More 18 Pieces of Advice for my 18-year-old College Freshman
What if you could be happy today? What if you were content with what you have? That doesn’t mean you stop striving or learning. But what if you could be happy along the way? This is where Holland comes in … … More Welcome to Holland: A New Perspective
How do you see the world? Cup half-full, half-empty, or a bit of both? And what if someone does something really annoying or thoughtless — are you immediately angry? While most of us cannot stop our immediate reaction of being angry, frustrated or resentful, it is very likely that we can “get over it.” In … More Choose Your Lens: Choose How You See the World
I am not a fan of new year’s resolutions. I didn’t make any this year, or for many years. But I’m a big believer in mindful changes — actively reflecting and thoughtfully committing to new habits. So, on new year’s day I sat down and made a list. I used a 3 x 5 index … More My New Year’s Plan